by Ante » Fri 3 Jul 2009 07:08
Even better - try role playing with your boyfriend. He will be the person who wants to hire a new employee and you are the one who wants the job. Set up a desk, some chairs, a door that can be closed (hence the knocking and waiting for the words "Come in" etc.) and then go through the whole process. As a counter argument you could say that "My bf isn't the one who will be interviewing me for the job." That's correct but it doesn't matter. The point is to get your brain on the right track to think about the whole process of being interviewed. Things like how to look into eyes, how to shake hands, how to sit, how to hold your arms, where to look when you are not looking into his eyes, how to keep the rhythm of your speech, how to control the words you are using. Well, everything. What makes us calm and controlled is the feeling when we know that we understand what is happening around us. We are "ourselves" in our homes, in our daily routines, doing things we have been doing a lot and knowing the outcome. You have something that reminds you of your daily life, about the moments when you feel that you are in control. The thing you can do is to pick something to remind you about those moments and bring it to the interview. A photo of your favourite place in your walle... purse, something in your keyring, painted toenails with your favourite colour etc... Usually the clothes we put on for a job interview are NOT our favourite clothes nor they are comfortable or remind us about the best moments of our lives (they probably remind you about the last time you had to sweat in the job interview - so how come reminding yourself about that will help now?).
Then some other things to remember; What ever you think will affect your speech and the words you are using. So no matter how well you present yourself you may end up ruining it all since you are sure at all whether you are the right person to your job. The face to face communication is probably 70% non verbal. So actually the words you are using are LESS important than the gestures, body language and the facial expressions you have. To make it worse - you can't really control them consciously. What you CAN control is your mind.
Oh... I could go on forever but you probably got the point already.
Love and stay calm.
PS. I already forgot one thing I was supposed to write about. The difference between the words: I want and I need. Google the rest so you get the point. But based on the things you've written, indeed you WANT the job. So keep that in your mind.